Your College Reality

We'd like to think it's about to get real. Advice and stories from six experienced college navigators. Inquire within.

Slow Down, You’re Doing Fine

Hey everyone. I apologize profusely for the lack of updating and I feel awful for letting you down, truly. That being said, I hope that things are finding you well no matter what year of school you’re in. Each year, semester, month, week, day, hour, minute brings something a little different to each person in each situation, and regardless of what you’re dealing with, it is my sincere hope that you feel loved, accepted, and rested at some point during your week.

I wanted to write today about something that has been bothering me not only for a long time, but also on my various social news feeds as of late. It’s a trend that I saw happen with my older sisters, a trend that I contributed to, and a trend that continues after I graduated college— overcommitment and overworking yourself.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be involved with things, and there’s nothing wrong with working hard to achieve goals you set for yourself. In fact, I personally admire these traits within someone. Committing your time to things outside of academics (or a job you may have) shows that you’re willing to work to make yourself a well-rounded individual, something that is highly sought in the workplace. However, there simply comes a time when you need to take a step back and prioritize things in your life for your health and your academics.

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YCR- What’s your fear?

When I was getting ready to go to college, I was horrified that I didn’t fit in. My school has an orientation period in June that consists of three separate two day sessions that you can choose from to attend. I decided on the middle one and went. My sister was an orientation leader and I pretty much stuck to her because I was scared shitless of people not liking me, minus a three hour period where I stayed up and played catchphrase with a few people. I slowly found my place, but it was and is sometimes my biggest fear.

What are some of your fears going into college? Answer here or here http://yourcollegereality.tumblr.com/ask:

YCR- Help

Sometimes stuff just goes horribly wrong. We here at YCR hope that you never, ever need to use the following information for yourself, your loved ones, or anyone else. But just in case, please utilize these references. These are specifically for US and UK, but if you ever need a number outside of these nations, please let us know and we’ll try to hunt them down. We’re here for you. (If you are reading this and know different numbers for different resources, please let us know and we’ll update accordingly)

Love,

J, P, JKD, N, T, and DJ

United States National Helplines:

  • 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288)
  • National Suicide Prevention Helpline 1-800-273-8255 (1-800-273-TALK)
  • National Association for Children of Alcoholics 1-888-55-4COAS (1-888-554-2627)
  • National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
  • National Drug Abuse Hotline 1-800-662-HELP (1-800-662-4357)
  • National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663
  • Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention 1-800-931-2237 (Hours:8am-noon daily, PT)
  • Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender (GLBT) Youth Support Line 800-850-8078
  • Help Finding a Therapist 1-800-THERAPIST (1-800-843-7274)
  • Pregnancy Hotline 1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466)

United Kingdom National Hotlines:

  • Samaritans/suicide: 08457 90 90 90
  • Sexuality support: 01708 765200
  • Eating disorders: 01494 793223
  • Rape/sexual assault: 0808 8000 123 (female) or 0808 8000 122 (male)
  • Bereavment: 0800 9177 416
  • Runaway/homeless: 0808 800 70 70
  • CareConfidential Pregnancy/post abortion: 0800 028 2228

i-wish-i-was-a-princess asked: Hey, so I got my roommate assignment about 2 months ago and found her on Facebook. I sent her a friend request and a message introducing myself. I waited about 2 weeks and, when no reply came, sent her an email. Since then, she has accepted my friend request, buy has not responded to either of those messages. Is she ignoring me? If so, what do I do?

Hey there!

Hmm…this is a little tough. Unfortunately technology can be kind of tricky and there are a few reasons I would think she might not be responding:

  • She could very well just be nervous or not that great at communicating online.
  • She could be operating solely from mobile at this current time, maybe on vacation or something, and can’t respond well.
  • She might be like some folks out there and never actually check her messages or e-mail that often.

Other than that, I can’t really say why she wouldn’t be responding, but I don’t think (and I hope) that she isn’t ignoring you.

If I were you, I would maybe post a message to her actual Facebook wall- something short and simple along the lines of “Hey, this is __, your roommate! I’m so excited to be living with you this year. I messaged you my phone number if you want to call and talk about what we’re bringing to school. Hope you’re having a great summer!”

And you know, actually take the time to message her your phone number if you haven’t already. If that STILL doesn’t work, I guess it might just be a waiting game for you and for that I’m sorry! Hopefully if that’s the case it’ll be because of one of the above reasons.

I hope this helps! If any of my friends that run this blog happen to see this, I’ll make sure they send you a personal message with their own opinion if it’s different from mine, okay? Report back and let us know what’s up and hang in there!

-J

Questions?

So far we’ve been attempting to cover things that are meant to help you during the summer/lead-in to college. We want to open the floor for you to ask us some questions! 

Academics. Dorm living. Parties. Clubs/Organizations. Dating. You name it, we can cover it and we hope to help you out. Shoot us one!

http://yourcollegereality.tumblr.com/ask

YCR- Owning “You”

*The author would like to note that the following information all surrounds the general basis that you’re not a serial killer, heavy drug user, cannibal, or things of that nature. Please don’t kill anyone because you feel like it. Don’t gnaw someone’s face off. Take a shower, do some laundry once in awhile. Thanks a bunch.

This post today goes out not only to incoming freshmen, but undergrads, grad students, and, really, everyone. But we’ll address it mainly to our first mentioned group and I think you can alter it to fit your life as you go along.

In my personal experience, each segment of your education (K-5, 6-8, 9-12, etc.) is riddled with things that make it a special brand of hell each time around. Even if you’re a “popular” kid in some aspect, these periods of time can be really rough on all parties involved. I think that’s a huge reason as to why a lot of people are eager to graduate high school, regardless of what their future plans entail. Whether you read young adult fiction or watch young adult television, you probably know that this new chapter in your life is the perfect time to “reinvent yourself”. Follow me into my wordy thoughts on this matter!

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YCR - Ultimately, Your Major Chooses You

Choosing a major for some people is cake; they know exactly what classes they want to take, what they want to end up doing after school, and have a plan to get there. For others, it can turn into a long process of eliminating options. Or, if you’re like me, you think you’re set, and then totally change your mind later. Luckily, college is there for the sole purpose of helping you find out exactly who it is you want to be. Unless you want to go into medicine or some other highly-intensive field, you have at least a little time before it stops being “exploring options” and becomes “wasting money.”

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YCR— Hey Roomie

One of the main things people worry about when going to college is their roommate. Will I like him/her? What will he/she be like? What if we’re complete opposites? Well, hopefully we can help ease your concerns a little bit.

Before the jump, here are a couple of things you need to know before you continue:

  • I can only speak from my experience/things I’ve seen as an orientation leader. Your mileage may and probably will vary.
  • My school made us fill out a housing preference form- we could put the name of someone we wanted to room with and if they put our name as well, more than likely we would be rooming together (This was for freshman year alone. They have a different process for upperclassmen). If we didn’t have someone to choose, we could fill out a small questionnaire (smoker/nonsmoker, etc.) and leave it up to chance.

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YCR— Packing

Before I even get started, I have to tell you what I’ve told everybody, EVER, about packing for college. You will over-pack, and you will come back with more things than you bring. Between events your college might hold and organizations you might join, you’ll come back to your house with a variety of trinkets and shirts and various things you might not have even known your dorm room was holding. Now, onto my compiled packing list with additional notes and tips at the end. It’s wordy but necessary! (Note: I am trying to speak in the most general of terms. I realize not every college boy is a dirty, smelly mess and not every college girl comes equipped with every fashion accessory alive. I’m thinking as basic as possible)

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